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Silence - Not Always Golden

When I got to the hospital today to see Ted, I found him a bit emotional.  He told me he had just read the couple of posts I had written about his pneumonia.  It was kind of rough to see him react that way - but, he is at the end of this hospital stay and he wants to be done.  So, I can see how things would start to get to him.  He said to me, "no comments?".  I showed him the comments on facebook where I had posted the entries.  He got choked up again.

I have often said that I loved being single.  I enjoyed the freedom.  I enjoyed the independence.  I didn't have to answer to anyone - other than telling my kids where I would be.  The good thing about being married to Ted is that he, for the most part, allows me to have that independence.  He knows that I am a grownup and he knows that I would never do anything that would hurt him.  He trusts me and I trust him. We love spending time together - but, he doesn't feel like he has to keep me under his thumb at all times.  He allows me the freedom to do what I want to do - and I grant him that same freedom.

When Ted was on the respirator, I realized that I had not heard his voice for three days.  That is a very disconcerting feeling.  This person that you have pretty much talked to everyday for eight years,  is not available to talk.  I would feel myself wanting to call him on the phone - just for that mundane talk; how was your day?  how are you feeling?  what do you want for dinner?  I couldn't do that.  He couldn't speak to me for three days.  I would sit in the same room as him and I would hold his hand, he would squeeze my hand - but, we couldn't have a conversation.  It was a rough few days.

As I said, I loved being single.  But, when I was single, I was never alone.  I always had someone at my house.  When George died, I was single for five years - but, I was not alone.  At first, I had three kids at home.  When Crystal moved out, I still had two.  When KayeLynn went to school at Dixie, I still had Rodger there to keep me company - even though he wasn't home much, he was still there.  This last week, I have pretty much been alone.  When at home, I have been home alone.  KayeLynn went back to her apartment last week and I have been home alone.  I sit at home, no one to talk to, no one to hang out with, no one there.  I have realized - I want my honey to come home.  I don't want to be alone anymore.

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  1. On the official record we, the whole damn family & some of the chickens, love you both and your kids and their kids. And we are so grateful to hear how well Ted is recovering. Lot of hugs and stuff.

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  2. Glad Ted is doing better' Hope he is home soon!

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